1. Describe the problem in neutral language:

 

 

2. List your needs and concerns; then prioritize them:

 

 

 

3. List your spouse’s needs and concerns:

 

 

4. What are your common goals and areas of agreement?

 

 

5. What are each person’s major anxieties or fears?

 

 

6. Brainstorm all possible options (check off the most promising):

 

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c.

 

 

7. List several proposals:

 

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b.

 

c.

 

8. Final decisions:

 

 

 

9. Plan for implementation (how, when, who will be responsible for what; be specific):