BETWEEN LOVE AND HATE: A GUIDE TO CIVILIZED DIVORCE How to Resolve Conflict, Improve Communication and Avoid Costly Legal Battles       Between Love and Hate is a roadmap for a sane and civilized divorce. Based on the principles of mediation, it provides couples with the tools to manage their painful and volatile interactions, negotiate rather than escalate disputes, and focus on the long term good of the post divorce family. Filled with checklists, worksheets, and self- assessment

tools, readers will be empowered to act in the best interests of their children and to end their marriages with dignity and respect for the good parts.         This book will prove invaluable to couples who are committed to a collaborative process as well as individuals who are dealing with a difficult or uncooperative partner. It is packed with information to help couples navigate the emotional and legal terrain of a disintegrating marriage in a constructive way. Contents include: Preparing for separation The 7 keys to preventing a divorce from becoming adversarial Managing emotions: anger, blame, guilt, and setting a course toward healing Developing parenting plans and legal custody arrangements Building a cooperative, businesslike relationship as parents The needs of children in divorce The fundamentals of win-win negotiating and conflict resolution Lawyers and the legal process The difficult ex: dealing with post- divorce problems 35 exercises, checklists, and self-assessment tools which can also be used in divorce education seminars. Endorsements "Required reading for anyone contemplating divorce."   — Publisher's Weekly "Between Love and Hate is a wonderful book. Immensely readable, very human, and at times quite moving, this book is packed with information that will help couples divorce in a more civilized way....An excellent resource for mediators, psychotherapists, and attorneys to assist divorcing couples."   — Joan Kelly, Ph.D., Co-author of Surviving the Break-Up Past-President Academy of Family Mediators "If couples considering or experiencing a divorce were to read one book to help them through the process, this is it."   — Jay Folberg, former Dean, Professor of Law, Univ. of San Francisco, Past-Pres. Assoc. of Family Conciliation Courts ORDER: Paperback $13.95 Go to Amazon.com to purchase. Quantity discounts available directly through the publisher: Penguin/Putnam: Special Markets Dept. (212) 366-27758